Friendship – The ability to communicate and share

“Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.”
– Albert Camus –

From the moment you are born, you have a unique personality which is “empty” but as you grow up, this personality grows into something greater and depending on the experiences you’ve had as a person, the more it will change. Some people (like me) find it hard to act normal in social situations but other people have the natural ability to socialize without feeling awkward in any way. It is because of this that some people find it easier to befriend people and some people have trouble. It all depends on the person’s personality. People like me who have trouble staying calm in populated areas have to try that extra bit harder in order to make friends. It’s simple. If you’re an insecure person with little confidence or self esteem, the world will be a much harder place for you to make friends. This being said, you shouldn’t give up on making friends.

We are only human and it is through friendship that we are able to live our lives to the fullest. We cannot live in this world without the power of friendship. it is impossible to accomplish anything if one doesn’t allow themselves to make friends. This being said, it is impossible for one to not have a single friend in the world. There are countless of people in this world and that means there are countless of personalities that come with those people. Every personality is unique but there are always people with similarities. It may be that you enjoy the same type of music as that person or you understand them for who they are. The main point is that everyone has friends, no matter how alone and lonely you may think you are. Now, you have to remember that the more friends you make, there is a possibility that you’ll make enemies along the way. Just ignore these people and try not to let them bother you. You are in charge of your own life not others. You have to be cautious when you choose who you befriend. There are always those who will pose as your friend but in reality they just want to use you in order to achieve some personal and selfish goal.

Find people with similar interests. Don’t be afraid to try new things in order to meet new people (I’m being a hypocrite here, I really should take my own advice, ahaha). This doesn’t mean that you change your personality and who you are to fit in. If someone can’t handle you for who you truly are then I’m sorry, that person isn’t even worth your time. This world is full of judgmental people and it’s because of this that people like myself find it really hard to enjoy life and the people around the world. There are two things that I look in a true friend: honesty and compassion. I’d rather a friend tell me the truth (even though it may be harsh at times) to my face rather than going behind my back and back stab you. You must understand your friend in order to be understood.

You cannot burden your darkness alone.

Inner Sanctum: Being the way that you are is enough

Being yourself isn’t the easiest thing to do, especially if society and the people around you think quite poorly of the things you like and the people you look up to. Hey, a good example of this would be me liking a certain “boy band” (you can probably guess…). Okay, “like” is an understatement but still, you get the drift (I hope). The world is full of judgmental people these days and the internet is by far much worse. Perhaps it’s because you are behind a computer screen and people can’t see what you really look like, making them feel like they can say whatever they want. It’s sort of like having a mask… except… well, it’s a machine.

Anyway, I find it quite hard to be myself around people because I fear being judged. Trust me, it’s not a nice thing and we’ve all probably been there at some point in our lives. We face judgement everyday and sometimes it can even hold you back. You really shouldn’t let others affect who you are and determine what you’ll become (I’m sounding like a hypocrite here, haha). 

“I’m beautiful in my way because God makes no mistakes.”

“I’m on the right track baby, I was born this way.”

 

Okay, that was lame and cheesy but you know what Gaga has said here is quite true! At times we may feel hopeless and full of despair (pretty much me all the time, I can’t talk) but you are who you are in the end. There’s no escaping that reality.

Oh, if you haven’t figured out who that boy band is from the title you must be a little slow…
ImageYeah… couldn’t make it anymore obvious than that! What can I say? They’re talented, charming and overall down to earth guys! Now, I’m a guy and society + the internet would disagree but you know what? Haters are going to hate!

Don’t be afraid to let your “true self” out of your inner sanctum. It doesn’t really matter what others think about you. It’s not like they control your life.

(Well, I’m just going to say that I’m being a huge hypocrite here because I am terrified of some people finding out about me and them, haha!)